Compassionate consequences cultivate insight and inspiration, as opposed to punitive punishments that poison personal relationships.

A compassionate consequences mindset can be developed through the practice of Detached Engagement (Calm Bubbles Seek Heart & Spirit).

• Calm: Take a deep breath

• Bubbles: Visualize an emotional bubble separating your own feelings from others

• Seek: Seek 1st to understand the perspective of others.

• Heart: Protect your heart with an emotional boundary.

• Spirit: Say a mindfulness mantra to protect your spirit (eg, Do no harm, good inside, this too shall pass, etc.)

Once a life lesson is learned through the road of trials, an inflection point emerges requiring a decision whether to return and attempt sharing the hard-fought insight with loved ones. It took courage to transcend the adversity. It will take more courage to complete the challenge of the return. Wisdom will help you determine the right timing, method, and people to share your insight with.

Effective parenting wisdom: Model what you want to teach. Connect with love before you correct. Mindfulness and presence overcome imperfection. See the good inside, not just the behavior. Create values and independence. Respect and trust them as unique individuals. Build lifelong relationships of trust.