COMPASSIONATE CONFLICT

2 IDEAS FROM ME

• COMPASSION is the most effective path from conflict to peace.

  • Where:

    • C= Calm First. Regulate before resolving for up to 24 hours if necessary.

    • O= Observe Facts. Focus on observations rather than interpretations.

    • ‍M= My Needs. Own your feelings and needs.

    • P= Practice Vulnerability vs. Accusation.

    • A= Ask & Listen. Listen with your heart to understand.

    • S= See Their Perspective. Assume they have valid reasons for their position.

    • S= Support Without Surrender. Validate without necessarily agreeing.

    • I= Identify Underlying Needs. Look beneath positions.

    • O= Offer Dignity. Protect the person’s dignity.

    • N= Navigate Toward Repair. Prioritize repair over victory. ‍

• Experimenting with COMPASSION is one of the most life-enhancing changes you can make.

2 QUOTES FROM SAGES

• “Between what is said and not meant, and what is meant and not said, most of love is lost.”—Khalil Gibran

• “Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals.”—Pema Chodron.

1 QUESTION FOR YOU TO EXPLORE

• What meaningful relationship in your life could COMPASSION bring you peace?

Namaste,

Duane Nelson